{"id":62561,"date":"2022-08-30T03:48:33","date_gmt":"2022-08-30T03:48:33","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/longchuathuongxot.vn\/v2\/?p=62561"},"modified":"2022-08-30T03:48:33","modified_gmt":"2022-08-30T03:48:33","slug":"dieu-bi-hieu-sai-ve-hon-nhan","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/longchuathuongxot.vn\/v2\/dieu-bi-hieu-sai-ve-hon-nhan\/","title":{"rendered":"\u0110I\u1ec0U B\u1eca HI\u1ec2U SAI V\u1ec0 H\u00d4N NH\u00c2N"},"content":{"rendered":"

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\"DieuC\u00f3 nhi\u1ec1u c\u00e1ch n\u00f3i v\u1ec1 ch\u1ee7 \u0111\u1ec1 n\u00e0y, nh\u01b0ng t\u00f4i mu\u1ed1n k\u00eau g\u1ecdi s\u1ef1 ch\u00fa \u00fd \u0111\u1ebfn \u0111i\u1ec1u t\u00f4i ngh\u0129 l\u00e0 v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 l\u1edbn nh\u1ea5t trong h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n. \u0110i\u1ec1u t\u00f4i s\u1eafp n\u00f3i c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 g\u00e2y \u201cs\u1ed1c\u201d cho nhi\u1ec1u ng\u01b0\u1eddi, nh\u01b0ng \u0111i\u1ec1u m\u00e0 nhi\u1ec1u ng\u01b0\u1eddi hi\u1ec3u sai nhi\u1ec1u nh\u1ea5t ch\u00ednh l\u00e0 t\u00ecnh y\u00eau. S\u1ef1 ph\u1ea3n \u0111\u1ed1i ph\u1ed5 bi\u1ebfn nh\u1ea5t v\u1ec1 \u0111i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi ta k\u1ebft h\u00f4n v\u00ec h\u1ecd y\u00eau nhau, v\u1eady t\u1ea1i sao t\u00ecnh y\u00eau c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0 v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1?<\/span><\/p>\n

Ch\u00fang ta c\u1ea7n b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u v\u1edbi c\u00e2u h\u1ecfi n\u00e0y:\u00a0\u201cT\u00ecnh y\u00eau l\u00e0 g\u00ec?\u201d<\/em>\u00a0T\u00f4i \u0111\u00e3 t\u1eebng h\u1ecfi \u0111i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng \u0111\u00f4i b\u1ea1n \u0111ang chu\u1ea9n b\u1ecb h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n, nh\u01b0ng t\u00f4i kh\u00f4ng h\u1ecfi nh\u01b0 v\u1eady n\u1eefa v\u00ec t\u00f4i lu\u00f4n nh\u1eadn \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c c\u00e2u tr\u1ea3 l\u1eddi t\u01b0\u01a1ng t\u1ef1. \u0110a s\u1ed1 t\u00f4i nghe h\u1ecd n\u00f3i v\u1ec1 c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c tuy\u1ec7t v\u1eddi ho\u1eb7c \u1ea5m \u00e1p khi h\u1ecd \u1edf b\u00ean nhau. \u0110\u00f4i khi t\u00f4i nghe n\u00f3i v\u1ec1 nh\u1eefng \u0111\u1eb7c t\u00ednh t\u00edch c\u1ef1c kh\u00e1c nhau c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi kia v\u00e0 c\u00e1ch h\u1ecd th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 th\u00edch nh\u1eefng g\u00ec ng\u01b0\u1eddi kia c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 cung c\u1ea5p.<\/span><\/p>\n

Ch\u00fang ta c\u1ea7n b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u x\u00e1c \u0111\u1ecbnh t\u00ecnh y\u00eau l\u00e0 g\u00ec v\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng l\u00e0 g\u00ec.<\/span><\/p>\n

T\u00ecnh y\u00eau kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 c\u1ea3m x\u00fac. C\u00f3 nh\u1eefng c\u1ea3m x\u00fac \u0111i k\u00e8m v\u1edbi t\u00ecnh y\u00eau, nh\u01b0ng b\u1ea3n ch\u1ea5t t\u00ecnh y\u00eau kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 c\u1ea3m x\u00fac. \u0110\u1ecbnh ngh\u0129a c\u1ee7a t\u00f4i v\u1ec1 t\u00ecnh y\u00eau r\u1ea5t \u0111\u01a1n gi\u1ea3n: LU\u00d4N L\u00c0M \u0110I\u1ec0U T\u1ed0T NH\u1ea4T CHO NG\u01af\u1edcI KIA. Ng\u01b0\u1eddi ta n\u00f3i r\u1eb1ng m\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 v\u1ee3 ch\u1ed3ng \u0111\u00e1nh gi\u00e1 cao nh\u1eefng g\u00ec h\u1ecd s\u1ebd \u0111\u1ea1t \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c khi k\u1ebft h\u00f4n v\u1edbi ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u00e0y ho\u1eb7c ng\u01b0\u1eddi kia. Qu\u1ea3 th\u1eadt c\u00f3 r\u1ea5t nhi\u1ec1u l\u1ee3i \u00edch cho m\u1ed7i ng\u01b0\u1eddi trong h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n, nh\u01b0ng t\u00ecnh y\u00eau kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng g\u00ec b\u1ea1n NH\u1eacN \u0110\u01af\u1ee2C, m\u00e0 l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng g\u00ec b\u1ea1n CHO \u0110I.<\/span><\/p>\n

Ng\u00e0y th\u00e0nh h\u00f4n, \u0111\u00f4i trai g\u00e1i th\u1ec1 nguy\u1ec7n y\u00eau th\u01b0\u01a1ng nhau. \u0110i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 ch\u01b0a bao gi\u1edd d\u1ec5 d\u00e0ng, nh\u01b0ng n\u00f3 tr\u1edf n\u00ean kh\u00f3 kh\u0103n h\u01a1n theo c\u1ea5p s\u1ed1 nh\u00e2n trong x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang ta. T\u1ea1i sao? B\u1edfi v\u00ec ch\u00fang ta \u0111ang s\u1ed1ng trong m\u1ed9t x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i \u00edch k\u1ef7 nh\u1ea5t c\u1ee7a l\u1ecbch s\u1eed. \u0110i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y \u1ea3nh h\u01b0\u1edfng tr\u1ef1c ti\u1ebfp \u0111\u1ebfn h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n v\u00ec t\u00ednh \u00edch k\u1ef7 \u0111\u1ed1i l\u1eadp v\u1edbi t\u00ecnh y\u00eau. V\u00ec v\u1eady, n\u1ebfu ch\u00fang ta l\u1eb7p l\u1ea1i l\u1eddi th\u1ec1 y\u00eau th\u01b0\u01a1ng, ch\u00fang ta c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 n\u00f3i r\u1eb1ng \u201cAnh\/em s\u1ebd kh\u00f4ng bao gi\u1edd \u00edch k\u1ef7\u201d ho\u1eb7c \u201cAnh\/em s\u1ebd \u0111\u1eb7t em\/anh v\u00e0 nhu c\u1ea7u c\u1ee7a em\/anh tr\u01b0\u1edbc b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n v\u00e0 nhu c\u1ea7u c\u1ee7a anh\/em.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

Ch\u00fang ta c\u00f3 xu h\u01b0\u1edbng \u00edch k\u1ef7 theo b\u1ea3n ch\u1ea5t, s\u1ed1ng trong m\u1ed9t x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i \u00edch k\u1ef7 v\u00e0 coi tr\u1ecdng v\u1eadt ch\u1ea5t ch\u1ec9 l\u00e0m gia t\u0103ng s\u1ef1 c\u00e1m d\u1ed7 \u0111\u1ed1i v\u1edbi l\u00f2ng \u00edch k\u1ef7. \u0110\u00e2y l\u00e0 v\u1ebb \u0111\u1eb9p c\u1ee7a \u0111\u1eddi s\u1ed1ng v\u1ee3 ch\u1ed3ng v\u00e0 t\u00ecnh y\u00eau: theo c\u00e1ch c\u1ee7a Thi\u00ean Ch\u00faa \u0111\u1ec3 v\u01b0\u1ee3t qua t\u00ednh \u00edch k\u1ef7 v\u00e0 n\u00ean th\u00e1nh. Th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng g\u00ec \u0111\u1eddi s\u1ed1ng h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n h\u01b0\u1edbng \u0111\u1ebfn. M\u1ee5c \u0111\u00edch c\u1ee7a h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n l\u00e0 l\u00e0m cho nhau n\u00ean th\u00e1nh v\u00e0 nu\u00f4i d\u01b0\u1ee1ng c\u00e1c v\u1ecb th\u00e1nh m\u1edbi cho Thi\u00ean Ch\u00faa.<\/span><\/p>\n

Trong cu\u1ed1n \u201cGod\u2019s Plan for Your Marriage\u201d (K\u1ebf Ho\u1ea1ch c\u1ee7a Ch\u00faa cho H\u00f4n Nh\u00e2n c\u1ee7a B\u1ea1n) c\u00f3 \u0111o\u1ea1n vi\u1ebft: \u201cTrong h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n, l\u1eddi th\u1ec1 y\u00eau th\u01b0\u01a1ng ng\u1ee5 \u00fd r\u1eb1ng hai ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e3 t\u1ef1 do l\u1ef1a ch\u1ecdn \u0111\u1ec3 ph\u1ee5c v\u1ee5 nhau, x\u00e2y d\u1ef1ng l\u1eabn nhau, lu\u00f4n lu\u00f4n v\u00e0 ch\u1ec9 t\u00ecm ki\u1ebfm nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u t\u1ed1t \u0111\u1eb9p. Theo ngh\u0129a c\u01a1 b\u1ea3n nh\u1ea5t c\u1ee7a l\u1eddi th\u1ec1 n\u00e0y, \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 l\u00e0m \u0111i\u1ec1u t\u1ed1t nh\u1ea5t \u0111\u1ec3 gi\u00fap nhau tr\u01b0\u1edfng th\u00e0nh trong s\u1ef1 th\u00e1nh thi\u1ec7n, gi\u00fap nhau n\u00ean th\u00e1nh. L\u1eddi m\u1eddi g\u1ecdi b\u01b0\u1edbc v\u00e0o \u0111\u1eddi s\u1ed1ng phu th\u00ea l\u00e0 l\u1eddi k\u00eau g\u1ecdi n\u00ean th\u00e1nh. M\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi th\u01b0\u1eddng ngh\u0129 v\u1ec1 h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n nh\u01b0 m\u1ed9t thi\u00ean ch\u1ee9c th\u1ea5p k\u00e9m h\u01a1n. H\u00f4n nh\u00e2n l\u00e0 l\u1eddi k\u00eau g\u1ecdi t\u1eeb Thi\u00ean Ch\u00faa \u0111\u1ebfn m\u1ed9t l\u1ed1i s\u1ed1ng c\u1ee5 th\u1ec3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c thi\u1ebft k\u1ebf \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t \u0111\u1ec3 bi\u1ebfn \u0111\u1ed5i m\u1ed7i ng\u01b0\u1eddi th\u00e0nh th\u00e1nh nh\u00e2n. C\u00e1c t\u00f4ng \u0111\u1ed3 trong H\u1ed9i Th\u00e1nh \u0111\u00e3 ph\u1ee5ng s\u1ef1 Thi\u00ean Ch\u00faa theo nhi\u1ec1u c\u00e1ch kh\u00e1c nhau, nh\u01b0ng kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c h\u1ecd l\u00e0m khi\u1ebfn h\u1ecd n\u00ean th\u00e1nh, m\u00e0 ch\u00ednh t\u00ecnh y\u00eau anh d\u0169ng c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd \u0111\u1ed1i v\u1edbi Thi\u00ean Ch\u00faa v\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi l\u00e2n c\u1eadn \u0111\u00e3 khi\u1ebfn h\u1ecd n\u00ean th\u00e1nh.\u201d<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

S\u1ef1 \u00edch k\u1ef7 trong h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n d\u1eabn \u0111\u1ebfn s\u1ef1 th\u1ea5t v\u1ecdng v\u00e0 chia r\u1ebd; y\u00eau th\u01b0\u01a1ng nhau l\u00e0 t\u00ecm ki\u1ebfm nh\u1eefng g\u00ec t\u1ed1t nh\u1ea5t cho nhau, \u0111em l\u1ea1i s\u1ef1 hi\u1ec7p nh\u1ea5t v\u00e0 vi\u00ean m\u00e3n, b\u1edfi v\u00ec \u0111\u00f4i b\u1ea1n \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c t\u1ea1o n\u00ean theo h\u00ecnh \u1ea3nh v\u00e0 gi\u1ed1ng Thi\u00ean Ch\u00faa, \u0110\u1ea5ng l\u00e0 t\u00ecnh y\u00eau, s\u1ebd l\u00e0m nh\u1eefng g\u00ec h\u1ecd \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c t\u1ea1o ra \u0111\u1ec3 l\u00e0m.<\/span><\/p>\n

ROBERT J. ALTIER<\/u><\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

TR\u1ea6M THI\u00caN THU<\/u><\/strong>\u00a0(chuy\u1ec3n ng\u1eef t\u1eeb CatholicExchange.com)<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

C\u00f3 nhi\u1ec1u c\u00e1ch n\u00f3i v\u1ec1 ch\u1ee7 \u0111\u1ec1 n\u00e0y, nh\u01b0ng t\u00f4i mu\u1ed1n k\u00eau g\u1ecdi s\u1ef1 ch\u00fa \u00fd \u0111\u1ebfn \u0111i\u1ec1u t\u00f4i ngh\u0129 l\u00e0 v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 l\u1edbn nh\u1ea5t trong h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n. \u0110i\u1ec1u t\u00f4i s\u1eafp n\u00f3i c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 g\u00e2y \u201cs\u1ed1c\u201d cho nhi\u1ec1u ng\u01b0\u1eddi, nh\u01b0ng \u0111i\u1ec1u m\u00e0 nhi\u1ec1u ng\u01b0\u1eddi hi\u1ec3u sai nhi\u1ec1u nh\u1ea5t ch\u00ednh l\u00e0 t\u00ecnh y\u00eau. S\u1ef1 ph\u1ea3n \u0111\u1ed1i …<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":62562,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[11,19],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-62561","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-chia-se","category-tieu-diem"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/longchuathuongxot.vn\/v2\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/62561","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/longchuathuongxot.vn\/v2\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/longchuathuongxot.vn\/v2\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/longchuathuongxot.vn\/v2\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/longchuathuongxot.vn\/v2\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=62561"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/longchuathuongxot.vn\/v2\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/62561\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":62563,"href":"https:\/\/longchuathuongxot.vn\/v2\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/62561\/revisions\/62563"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/longchuathuongxot.vn\/v2\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/62562"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/longchuathuongxot.vn\/v2\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=62561"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/longchuathuongxot.vn\/v2\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=62561"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/longchuathuongxot.vn\/v2\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=62561"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}