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\"ChiSo<\/a>Ch\u1ec9 s\u1ed1 t\u1eed t\u1ebf (KQ \u2013 Kindness Quotient) r\u1ea5t c\u1ea7n thi\u1ebft, nh\u1edd \u0111\u00f3 m\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi ta bi\u1ebft s\u1ed1ng y\u00eau th\u01b0\u01a1ng. C\u0169ng nh\u01b0 ch\u1ea5t l\u01b0\u1ee3ng c\u1ee7a t\u00e2m h\u1ed3n, s\u1ef1 t\u1eed t\u1ebf l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t k\u1ef9 n\u0103ng. N\u00f3 \u0111\u00e0o s\u00e2u th\u00eam khi ch\u00fang ta bi\u1ebft ch\u00fa \u00fd t\u1edbi ch\u00ednh m\u00ecnh v\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c b\u1eb1ng s\u1ef1 nh\u1eadn th\u1ee9c. Khi ch\u00fang ta ra kh\u1ecfi v\u00f9ng tho\u1ea3i m\u00e1i v\u00e0 n\u00f3i chuy\u1ec7n v\u1edbi nhau, l\u1eafng nghe nhau, v\u00e0 quan t\u00e2m nhau theo c\u00e1ch th\u1ee9c kh\u00e1c th\u00ec s\u1ef1 t\u1eed t\u1ebf s\u1ebd ph\u00e1t tri\u1ec3n. K\u1ebft qu\u1ea3 c\u1ee7a s\u1ef1 t\u1eed t\u1ebf h\u01a1n s\u1ebd \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c ti\u1ebft l\u1ed9 trong t\u00e2m tr\u00ed ch\u00fang ta, trong cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng v\u00e0 trong c\u1ed9ng \u0111\u1ed3ng. \u0110\u00e2y l\u00e0 10 c\u00e1ch l\u00e0m t\u0103ng ch\u1ec9 s\u1ed1 t\u1eed t\u1ebf:<\/span><\/p>\n

1. T\u1eed t\u1ebf l\u00e0 s\u1ee9c m\u1ea1nh.<\/b> Kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 hi\u1ec3u s\u1ef1 t\u1eed t\u1ebf l\u00e0 \u0111\u1ee9c t\u00ednh th\u1ee9 y\u1ebfu, \u0111i\u1ec1u m\u00e0 ch\u00fang ta \u0111\u1ea1t t\u1edbi nh\u01b0 ph\u01b0\u01a1ng k\u1ebf cu\u1ed1i c\u00f9ng. Nh\u01b0ng n\u1ebfu ch\u00fang ta nh\u00ecn v\u00e0o s\u1ee9c m\u1ea1nh c\u1ee7a s\u1ef1 t\u1eed t\u1ebf \u2013 c\u00e1ch nh\u1eafc nh\u1edb ch\u00fang ta v\u1ec1 s\u1ef1 phong ph\u00fa n\u1ed9i t\u00e2m v\u00e0 gi\u00fap ch\u00fang ta c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y li\u00ean k\u1ebft v\u1edbi ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c ch\u1ee9 kh\u00f4ng t\u00e1ch r\u1eddi \u2013 ch\u00fang ta c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u0111\u00e1nh gi\u00e1 cao v\u1ec1 s\u1ef1 t\u1eed t\u1ebf nh\u01b0 ch\u00ednh s\u1ee9c m\u1ea1nh c\u1ee7a n\u00f3. S\u1ef1 t\u1eed t\u1ebf kh\u00f4ng l\u00e0 kh\u1edd d\u1ea1i ho\u1eb7c nh\u1eb9 d\u1ea1, nh\u01b0ng l\u00e0 kh\u00f4n ngoan v\u00e0 can \u0111\u1ea3m.<\/span><\/p>\n

2. T\u00ecm \u0111i\u1ec1u t\u1ed1t n\u01a1i m\u00ecnh.<\/b> <\/b>Ch\u00fang ta th\u01b0\u1eddng qu\u00e1 ch\u00fa \u00fd ho\u1eb7c \u00e1m \u1ea3nh v\u1ec1 l\u1ed7i l\u1ea7m c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh, ch\u00fang ta kh\u00f4ng d\u00e1m \u201c\u0103n to, n\u00f3i l\u1edbn\u201d v\u00ec ch\u00fang ta c\u1ea3m ng\u01b0\u1ee3ng ng\u00f9ng ho\u1eb7c qu\u00e1 nh\u00fat nh\u00e1t. Nh\u00ecn v\u00e0o nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u t\u1ed1t n\u01a1i m\u00ecnh kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 t\u1eeb ch\u1ed1i kh\u00f3 kh\u0103n ho\u1eb7c v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 g\u00ec, m\u00e0 l\u00e0 c\u00e1ch m\u1edf r\u1ed9ng t\u1ea7m nh\u00ecn \u0111\u1ec3 ch\u00e2n th\u1eadt h\u01a1n v\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng qu\u00e1 kh\u1eaft khe v\u1edbi ch\u00ednh m\u00ecnh.<\/span><\/p>\n

3. Chia s\u1ebb.<\/b> <\/b>N\u1ebfu ch\u00fang ta nh\u00ecn s\u00e2u v\u00e0o b\u1ea5t k\u1ef3 c\u00e1ch c\u01b0 x\u1eed n\u00e0o ch\u00fang ta s\u1ebd th\u1ea5y mu\u1ed1n c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y \u0111i\u1ec1u g\u00ec \u0111\u00f3 v\u0129 \u0111\u1ea1i h\u01a1n ch\u00ednh con ng\u01b0\u1eddi h\u1eefu h\u1ea1n c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh \u2013 c\u1ea3 v\u1ec1 tinh th\u1ea7n v\u00e0 th\u1ec3 l\u00fd. \u0110\u00e2y l\u00e0 s\u1ef1 th\u00f4i th\u00fac \u0111\u1ea1t \u0111\u1ebfn h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac, nh\u01b0ng n\u00f3 th\u01b0\u1eddng b\u1ecb b\u00f3p m\u00e9o b\u1edfi s\u1ef1 khinh su\u1ea5t, kh\u00f4ng bi\u1ebft th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac c\u00f3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c t\u00ecm th\u1ea5y hay kh\u00f4ng, v\u00e0 do \u0111\u00f3 ch\u00fang ta l\u00e0m t\u1ed5n h\u1ea1i nhi\u1ec1u th\u1ee9. Ch\u00fang ta h\u00e3y chia s\u1ebb ni\u1ec1m khao kh\u00e1t \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac, mu\u1ed1n thay \u0111\u1ed5i, s\u1ee3 m\u1ea5t m\u00e1t v\u00e0 s\u1ee3 y\u1ebfu \u0111u\u1ed1i. H\u00e3y nh\u1edb r\u1eb1ng nh\u1eefng g\u00ec ch\u00fang ta chia s\u1ebb s\u1ebd g\u1ee3i h\u1ee9ng cho ch\u00fang ta t\u00ecm \u0111\u1ebfn s\u1ef1 t\u1eed t\u1ebf.<\/span><\/p>\n

4. Bi\u1ebft \u01a1n.<\/b> <\/b>B\u00e0n tay gi\u00fap \u0111\u1ee1 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 n\u00e2ng ch\u00fang ta d\u1eady khi ch\u00fang ta qu\u1ef5 ng\u00e3, ch\u00fang ta c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 n\u1ed7 l\u1ef1c lu\u00f4n nh\u1edb \u0111\u1ebfn h\u1ecd trong tr\u00e1i tim m\u00ecnh. \u0110\u00f4i khi ch\u1ec9 m\u1ed9t vi\u1ec7c t\u1eed t\u1ebf nh\u1ecf n\u01a1i ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c c\u0169ng kh\u1ea3 d\u0129 t\u1ea1o s\u1ef1 kh\u00e1c bi\u1ec7t nhi\u1ec1u \u0111\u1ed1i v\u1edbi ch\u00fang ta. Th\u00e1i \u0111\u1ed9 v\u0103n h\u00f3a l\u00e0 c\u00e1ch t\u00f4n tr\u1ecdng ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c, \u0111\u1ed3ng th\u1eddi c\u0169ng l\u00e0 c\u00e1ch n\u00e2ng cao tinh th\u1ea7n c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang ta v\u00e0 nh\u1eafc nh\u1edb ch\u00fang ta v\u1ec1 s\u1ee9c m\u1ea1nh c\u1ee7a l\u00f2ng bi\u1ebft \u01a1n.<\/span><\/p>\n

5. \u0110\u1ea1i l\u01b0\u1ee3ng.<\/b> <\/b>\u0110\u1ee9c Ph\u1eadt n\u00f3i: \u201cN\u1ebfu b\u1ea1n bi\u1ebft s\u1ee9c m\u1ea1nh c\u1ee7a vi\u1ec7c trao t\u1eb7ng, b\u1ea1n s\u1ebd kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 b\u1ecf m\u1ed9t ng\u00e0y qua \u0111i m\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng chia s\u1ebb\u201d<\/i>. Ch\u00fang ta lu\u00f4n c\u00f3 \u0111i\u1ec1u g\u00ec \u0111\u00f3 \u0111\u1ec3 trao t\u1eb7ng: C\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0 v\u1eadt ch\u1ea5t, c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0 n\u1ee5 c\u01b0\u1eddi, ho\u1eb7c cu\u1ed9c n\u00f3i chuy\u1ec7n ch\u00e2n th\u00e0nh trong thang m\u00e1y. C\u00f3 th\u1ec3 b\u1ea1n \u0111\u1ec3 cho m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi l\u1ea1 \u0111i tr\u01b0\u1edbc ho\u1eb7c t\u1eb7ng m\u1ed9t \u0111\u1ed3ng nghi\u1ec7p m\u1ed9t m\u00f3n qu\u00e0 nh\u1ecf, ho\u1eb7c vi\u1ebft ghi ch\u00fa vi\u1ec7c \u0111\u00e1nh gi\u00e1 v\u00e0o m\u1ed9t \u0111\u00eam khuya. B\u1ea5t k\u1ef3 \u0111\u1ed9ng th\u00e1i \u0111\u1ea1i l\u01b0\u1ee3ng n\u00e0o \u2013 d\u00f9 l\u00e0 v\u1eadt ch\u1ea5t hay tinh th\u1ea7n, d\u00f9 l\u1edbn hay nh\u1ecf \u2013 \u0111\u1ec1u l\u00e0 \u0111\u1ed9ng th\u00e1i t\u1eed t\u1ebf \u0111\u1ea7y \u00fd ngh\u0129a.<\/span><\/p>\n

6. Suy ngh\u0129 v\u1ec1 s\u1ef1 t\u1eed t\u1ebf.<\/b> <\/b>M\u1ed7i ng\u00e0y ch\u00fang ta d\u00e0nh th\u1eddi gian \u0111\u1ec3 nh\u1edb \u0111\u1ebfn ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c v\u00e0 c\u1ea7u nguy\u1ec7n cho h\u1ecd. M\u1ed9t l\u00fac n\u00e0o \u0111\u00f3 trong ng\u00e0y, h\u00e3y nh\u1edb \u0111\u1ebfn nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e3 gi\u00fap \u0111\u1ee1 m\u00ecnh, nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi may m\u1eafn, nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00f4 \u0111\u01a1n, nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi s\u1ea7u kh\u1ed5, nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u1ec7nh t\u1eadt,\u2026 T\u00f9y theo ho\u00e0n c\u1ea3nh s\u1ed1ng c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh, ch\u00fang ta c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 h\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ed9ng trong gi\u1edbi h\u1ea1n cho ph\u00e9p. M\u1ed7i ng\u00e0y d\u00e0nh ra 10 ph\u00fat suy t\u01b0 v\u1ec1 s\u1ef1 t\u1eed t\u1ebf, b\u1ea1n s\u1ebd th\u1ea5y m\u00ecnh \u0111ang thay \u0111\u1ed5i\u2026<\/span><\/p>\n

7. L\u1eafng nghe ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c.<\/b> <\/b>Ch\u00fang ta th\u01b0\u1eddng n\u00f3i v\u1ec1 nh\u1eefng g\u00ec m\u00ecnh quan t\u00e2m, ngh\u0129 v\u1ec1 nh\u1eefng g\u00ec m\u00ecnh th\u00edch, ho\u1eb7c nh\u1eefng g\u00ec ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c \u0111\u00e1nh gi\u00e1 v\u1ec1 m\u00ecnh. Ch\u00fang ta c\u0169ng th\u01b0\u1eddng ch\u00fa \u00fd nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u201ch\u1ee3p\u201d v\u00e0 theo phe m\u00ecnh, nh\u01b0ng l\u1ea1i ch\u1ec9 tr\u00edch nh\u1eefng ai kh\u00f4ng theo phe m\u00ecnh. H\u00e3y qu\u00ean \u0111i nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 cho kh\u1ecfi b\u1eadn l\u00f2ng. \u0110\u00f3 l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t d\u1ea1ng t\u1eed t\u1ebf v\u00e0 b\u1ea1n s\u1ebd c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y nh\u1eb9 l\u00f2ng.<\/span><\/p>\n

8. Th\u00e2n thi\u1ec7n v\u1edbi m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi.<\/b> <\/b>Trong khi n\u00f3i chuy\u1ec7n v\u1edbi m\u1ed9t nh\u00f3m ng\u01b0\u1eddi, c\u00f3 nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi qu\u00e1 nh\u00fat nh\u00e1t, kh\u00f4ng d\u00e1m n\u00f3i v\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng d\u00e1m h\u1ecfi. Trong b\u1eefa ti\u1ec7c c\u00f3 nhi\u1ec1u ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00f4ng bi\u1ebft nhau. C\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c ai quan t\u00e2m ho\u1eb7c l\u01b0u \u00fd l\u00e0 c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c \u201c\u0111\u00e1ng s\u1ee3\u201d. M\u00ecnh sao, ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u1eady. H\u00e3y t\u1ecf ra c\u1edfi m\u1edf v\u00e0 th\u00e2n thi\u1ec7n v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y l\u1ebb loi. \u0110\u00f3 l\u00e0 s\u1ef1 h\u00f2a \u0111\u1ed3ng c\u1ea7n thi\u1ebft.<\/span><\/p>\n

9. Ki\u1ec1m ch\u1ebf.<\/b> <\/b>N\u1ebfu c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y gh\u00e9t ai, kh\u00f4ng mu\u1ed1n g\u1eb7p ho\u1eb7c n\u00f3i chuy\u1ec7n v\u1edbi h\u1ecd, h\u00e3y c\u1ed1 g\u1eafng ki\u1ec1m ch\u1ebf \u0111\u1ec3 v\u1eabn c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 t\u1ecf th\u00e1i \u0111\u1ed9 nh\u00e3 nh\u1eb7n ho\u1eb7c m\u1ec9m c\u01b0\u1eddi v\u1edbi h\u1ecd. H\u00e3y h\u00edt s\u00e2u \u0111\u1ec3 l\u1ea5y b\u00ecnh t\u0129nh. S\u1ef1 th\u00f9 h\u1eadn v\u00e0 ghen gh\u00e9t b\u1ea5t l\u1ee3i cho tinh th\u1ea7n, th\u1ec3 l\u00fd, x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i, t\u00f4n gi\u00e1o,\u2026 Th\u00f9 h\u1eadn th\u00ec d\u1ec5, nh\u01b0ng tha th\u1ee9 v\u00e0 y\u00eau th\u01b0\u01a1ng r\u1ea5t kh\u00f3, nh\u1ea5t l\u00e0 khi ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00f3 \u201cd\u1ecb \u1ee9ng\u201d v\u1edbi m\u00ecnh. Nh\u01b0ng ai l\u00e0m \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c v\u1eady m\u1edbi \u0111\u00e1ng n\u1ec3 tr\u1ecdng. Tha th\u1ee9 kh\u00f4ng l\u00e0 thua cu\u1ed9c.<\/span><\/p>\n

10. C\u1ea3m th\u00f4ng.<\/b> <\/b>Lu\u00f4n lu\u00f4n h\u1eefu \u00edch n\u1ebfu bi\u1ebft \u0111\u1eb7t m\u00ecnh v\u00e0o v\u1ecb tr\u00ed c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c. T\u1ee5c ng\u1eef c\u00f3 c\u00e2u: \u201cChi\u1ebfc \u00e1o kh\u00f4ng l\u00e0m n\u00ean th\u1ea7y tu\u201d<\/i>, ngh\u0129a l\u00e0 \u0111\u1eebng x\u00e9t \u0111o\u00e1n ai theo b\u1ec1 ngo\u00e0i. D\u00f9 b\u1ea1n \u0111ang r\u1ea5t mu\u1ed1n thay \u0111\u1ed5i ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c, s\u1ef1 c\u1ea3m th\u00f4ng v\u00e0 hi\u1ec3u h\u00f2an c\u1ea3nh c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd s\u1ebd khi\u1ebfn b\u1ea1n th\u00eam m\u1ea1nh m\u1ebd. D\u00f9 sao th\u00ec s\u1ef1 t\u1eed t\u1ebf c\u0169ng s\u1ebd m\u1edf r\u1ed9ng \u0111\u01b0\u1eddng ph\u1ea3n \u1ee9ng c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang ta \u0111\u1ed1i v\u1edbi v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 n\u00e0o \u0111\u00f3, gi\u00fap ch\u00fang ta nh\u1ea1y b\u00e9n h\u01a1n v\u00e0 s\u00e1ng t\u1ea1o h\u01a1n khi ch\u00fang ta mu\u1ed1n lo\u1ea1i tr\u1eeb \u0111au kh\u1ed5, v\u00e0 t\u00ecm v\u1ec1 Ch\u00e2n-Thi\u1ec7n-M\u1ef9.<\/span><\/p>\n

SHARON SALZBERG<\/span><\/b><\/span><\/p>\n

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